Prioritizing Budget

How do we stick to a P100,000 budget for a wedding?


Here's how:


1. PRIORITIZE. All weddings will have a lead person - bride, groom, mother of the bride (mob), mother of the groom (mog) or whoever else will be paying for it. Mostly, everyone will have a "SAY" on what should and should not be in the wedding. Therefore, what does a bride to be do?

• For bride and groom - on separate pieces of paper, write down the top three things you want to spend on.
  
• Write down how much you want to spend for each.
• Understand that if these are your priorities, then the rest are small stuff, not to be fussed over.

2. Look for the BEST DEALS within your circle. There are lots of deals on the web, through wedding fairs, through magazines, and others, but the best deals are still within family and friends.

• If you have an aunt who can sew, make her "gift" the wedding dress or other necessary clothing.
• If you have a creative friend who is good with printing, then let them be the invites creator or other printouts.
• My friend volunteered to make the flowers for me, after a trip to Dimasalang (flower market in Manila). All the flowers (tables, bouquets, buttoniers, corsages and mini bouquets will cost less than P5,000!!! those are Calla Lilies and Roses!!!)
• If they can, ask siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, godparents or friends to "sponsor" some of the items that you want, but are not priority - these can include: bridesmaids dresses, church fees, souveniers, rings or the gifts to entourage.
• If you have a photographer friend, they will be flattered if you ask them to cover the wedding. Just pay for the development of some photographs.
  

3. SIMPLIFY, SIMPLIFY, SIMPLIFY. To stick to the budget, if you have a choice between the basic and an "upgraded" for P1,500-P4,000; there is a tendency to say "its our wedding and its only one time, we should upgrade." Wrong. Those upgrades are unecessary most of the time and those little expenses and comments like "P2,000 or P3,000 lang yan, kunin na natin!" will ADD up. The budget is P100k. No room for upgrades.

I can get Manila Cathedral!!!

My dream wedding was always in the Manila Cathedral.

When i first checked the costs of a wedding there (with a previous fiance - long story), it was P15,000, and that was without air con. Air con would be P25,000. Now, it is P30,000 with air con!!!

Thank goodness though, that they have packages for those on a budget but who would like the cathedral as their venue. Check out - http://www.manilacathedral.org/weddings/wed_packages1.htm. They have one that has NO FEE!!! Without a mass, and the fee is discretionary, will be a donation to the cathedral. Isn't that great?

They have their usual packages also - http://www.manilacathedral.org/weddings/wed_packages.htm. They increased their prices January 2009 to P30,000 with air con and P20,000 without air con.

The Manila Cathedral staff are really professional and are really very good. They followed up requirements, and they individually look at the situation of each couple and gives the best advice on how to have the best wedding. I give credit to Monsignor Nestor Crebo for having such organized and documented forms, and a comprehensive list of requirements for every possible situation.

They are also very understanding and patient. They are strict with requirements, but are very accommodating when there are problems. If you have less than three months to prepare, this is your church!!!

Most churches i went to would have a fee between P8,000 (UP Chapel) up to P40,000 (Sanctuario de San Antonio). On average, however, parishes usually charge P10,000 for an "all-in" package with all the frills - flowers, a red carpet, a singer, will allow the complete entourage and up to 8 pairs of ninongs and ninangs (godparents).

I can still plan a P100k wedding in Manila Cathedral!!!

Requirements For The Application of A Marriage License

This information is from a sheet of paper that the Quezon City Hall gave me when i requested for an application form for a marriage license.

The photo on the right is what the Marriage License application looks like.

I had to pay P150 for the form and schedule a family planning seminar with the Health office. The Courts of Clerks give this form for free (I realized after i paid P150 for it) hehehe!



1. Certified True Copy of Birth Certificate or Baptism Certificate of both applicants.

• if Widowed, certified true copy of death certificate of demise spouse, if previous marriage was annulled, copy of Court Decision and Absolute Decree of Finality from the Court

2. Community Tax Certificates/Cedula of both applicant
3. One photo ID (colored or black and white) of each applicant
4. Certificate of Family Planning:

• There is no age limit for Family Planning, however couplkes for 24 years and below need to attend Family Planning Sessions, and Marriage Counseling. These sessions are scheduled for one-half day within the premises of the City Hall

If applicant is a Foreigner, requirements are:

1. Photocopy of Passport (showing data and date of arrival).
2. Certificate of LEGAL CAPACITY TO MARRY issued by their respective Diplomatic or Consular Officials;
3. If Divorced, copy of Final Decree of Absolute Divorce;
4. Certificate of Family Planning and Marriage Counselling and Responsible Parenthood
   

Notes:

• Parents' Consent (for 18-21 years old)
• Parents' Advice (for 21-25 years old)
• One of the applicants must be a resident of the place where they will apply for the marriage license
• The marriage license will be issued on the 11th day after the 10 day posting period upon submission of the application for marriage license. License expires 120 days from the date the license was issued.
  

BASIC WEDDING Things to do:

1. Book Church (actually, with my time frame, hopefully a church will allow me to book!)
2. Book reception venue (same as above)
3. Select entourage, ninangs (have to select because it coincides with the guest list)
4. Guest list
5. Get documents together (more about that later)

-- this is what i have so far.

First things first

I began this planning with a challenge - spend only P100,000 on my wedding. With this, i had to throw my grand images of a Manila Cathedral and Manila Ballroom reception out of the window, but i didn't let go of my dreams. I will still have my dream wedding. If i was able to find the right man after searching so long, then this dream wedding should be easy to arrange. *gulp, right?*

To figure out my priorities, i had to ask myself the question:

What are the three things i really really want to be perfect in my wedding?
1. a nice Filipinana dress (which i will wear over and over every Independence Day)
2. a really pretty ring (an eternity ring, to match my beautiful engagement ring)
3. a nice church (that we can visit again, bring the future kids to see)

Whew! That took a long time to consider.

I asked myself if food or catering was a priority, but i really don't mind where we eat as long as i am pretty.

Brainybaby (which i will christen my fiance because he is Mensan and a real genius who speaks seven (7) languages and has written three big books), just wants:
1. lechon
2. bulalo *gasp* and
3. his family to be there - all nicely clothed and made up.

Must remember to ask him what he wants... hehehe... we females do tend to dominate the wedding planning. Brainybaby says "If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you ask us what we want for our wedding, do we not have answers?" Yeah. Sometimes, the guys have preferences too.

Our priorities then?

A nice church wedding with me in a pretty dress with a pretty ring, where Brainybaby's entire family will be present and we will have bulalo and lechon.

Hmm... i wonder how this will be?

I've never really dreamt of how my wedding will be. Some dream of their wedding since childhood, some when they meet the right guy, for some like me, we don't really dream about it at all. Or maybe, since i've been engaged twice and have planned for a wedding four times (will get to that), i'm just tired and disillusioned and want to get it over and done with.

You see, Brainybaby is divorced. He's Pinoy but divorced in the states and the ex-wife is remarried. His son, lives with the mom in the states. For us to get married in the Philippines, he needed to get an annulment to marry me.

It should have been easy. The annulment takes about 9 months, but the ex-wife's greed and appetite for revenge took over most of the proceedings which extended the case to two years. Hence, i've planned a wedding about four times, in four different locations, assuming the results of the annulment. I'm hoping its for real now, because the case was closed three months ago and the judge will come out with the result within the next two weeks.

*crossing fingers and hoping for the best*

Hence, priorities have changed, in the four times i've planned the wedding. From Sanctuario de San Antonio in Forbes with a reception in Mandarin or Shangri-la, we've decided to just have it in a nice small church, a simple ceremony, and since we don't know until when this recession will be, spend only P100,000.

Where we will have it and the location, well, that's the journey this blog is going to take.

The beginning

Its done.

I said "yes" to that proverbial question of "Will you marry me?" and now, i'm planning the wedding. My wedding. Supposedly my day.

Why is it then, that i have to ask so many people for advice and why is it that i have to go through so much to get this done? I've planned multimillion dollar projects and have managed multiple teams around the globe, and why is it that its so difficult to plan this wedding?

*sigh*

Happily Ever After starts with Wedding Planning. If i survive this, then i should be able to survive the marriage.